What I mean exactly when you go into a situation looking for a specific mold and looking to make some one of a specific mold you are taking a free person and turning them into a subject. You are not at that point acquiring a partner or team member but rather a slave or servant. A partner will work with you on a subject through the night but a slave is gone the moment the time clock says 3pm.
Sometimes when you go to train some one all the predictive indicators say failure but sometimes that is just a shell of bad behaviors that were put on the person by society in general and just needs time to fall away. Also sometimes when you train someone their resume says star but they are really a fraud.
We are living in a society that doesn't want to give people a chance and second chances are rare. What we need to do is allow people to try and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. The point is to find people who fit and for people to find places they fit. That cannot be done when everything is on a lock down.
I hear so much about eliminating root causes of problems. However, outlier behavior is where most of your innovation comes from. People who look at the rest of the world from the outside.
I also hear so much about driving innovation. If you want to drive innovation, you develop your outliers and reach out to them instead of force drugging them until they cannot possibly make the contributions they were made for.
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You wrote: "We are living in a society that doesn't want to give people a chance and second chances are rare. What we need to do is allow people to try and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. The point is to find people who fit and for people to find places they fit. That cannot be done when everything is on a lock down."
In a religious sense I can completely agree with you. Are you saying we should be more willing to forgive errors, mistakes and destructive actions?
Or, are you saying that we live in world ruled by Fear, in the sense people often say "I am afraid I'll get sick", "I am afraid of 'those' people", "I'm afraid I will not be able to pay rent", etc.
The Psychologist Adler wrote that we are all driven by fear and we need to learn how to deal and handle all of our fears. He lived in a chaotic world of the early 1800s that, some claim, anticipated WWII.
A fellow doctor claimed we all try to live up to an image we have and fear a failure to measure up.
A third one, the leader of them simply thought that the only human problem is sex or lack of it.
A century later, a doctor lost parents, children and uncles in Auschwitz, watched prisoners and guards, both at the extreme ends of the Power spectrum and came to a surprising conclusion:
They were all trying to reach the same goal! This was, of course, incredible.
They all wanted to "Make sense" of self and world -that is all.
I would have thought that in a world bent on your personal destruction, people would be content. They all knew what their role in life was and this was made clear with either end of a rifle.
But, instead, they both assumed they were all human and that is the problem. As long as you could demonize some, the role of Inquisitor is meaningful but if you begin to accept our common humanity, other questions come up that each of us has to resolve in our own way.
Do others try to impose on you, not their feelings, but their ideas on who you are? That's a problem, particularly if they hold all the rifles.
It is no consolation but, every time you meet a bully, consider that they have a problem too, one that will fester in their mind and may even drive them to extreme acts, whatever they may be.
Can the Schools or the Government help?
Good question but the fact that you and others have the same problem could be seen as an indication that schools that fail to teach Ethics, Honesty and the Value of Truth, need to change.